Finding Your Own North Star

For the past several years, I have been Deep Soul Diving into the Akashic Records with a variety of wonderful individuals. What I've experienced again and again in these consultations, is that when we hit on a deep and resonant "truth" for someone, it has an enlivening energy to it. It feels good and full of life. This truth-filled energy sometimes feels like a quickening and other times it literally moves me to tears.

The experience never fails to amaze me. It also reminds me that each of us has a unique, soul-filled path to walk. What is truth for you may not be my truth. And what is exact guidance for one client, is never a blueprint for another. What I do know is that discovering your Truth can swing opens new doors and lead to a path of healing and much needed growth.

The following are some indicators to help you find your own North Star (vs. hanging out in the weaker shallows of life).

Finding Your Own North Star 101

Living inside of you are two different "selves": a social self and an essential self. The social self is shaped by cultural norms and expectations. It is confused about what is actually "truth" for you, and hangs out in the shallower end of life, working hard to fit in and avoid bad stuff from happening.

The essential self is the deeper part of yourself, that was formed before you were born and is on a longer, soul-led journey. It is the core of your personality and it is what signals you when you are moving towards your North Star.

The following are two lists to help you clarify the very different languages of your social vs. essential selves.

Behaviors of the Social Self are...

  • Avoidance based
  • Conforming
  • Imitative
  • Predictable
  • Planned
  • Hardworking

Behaviors of the Essential Self are...

  • Attraction based
  • Unique
  • Inventive
  • Surprising
  • Spontaneous
  • Playful

Following the essential self is simple but not easy. You will know you are on track when you feel energized in natural and authentic ways. As you trust this essential part of yourself more and more, it will become the mapmaker of your joyful and well-lived life.

Read more about how your Essential Self signals when you are on and off track: access my free guidebook, 7 Signs Your Life is Off Track.

I’ve been privileged to watch many people discover their own North Stars—and it always is a discovery, an “uncovering,” rather than a creation out of nothing.
— Martha Beck

Heather Gray

I am Heather Gray, a life coach, published author, and the founder of Soul-filled Life. I’ve spent thousands of hours helping creative, gorgeous individuals articulate and create lives that they love.  I draw from a background in Psychology, Life Coaching, and Energy Healing to move you towards personal breakthroughs and beautiful life change.